“And the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee” (John 2:1)
In Cana, Jesus performed His first miracle. Forget the stories you may have heard of Jesus doing miracles as a boy. He did no such things. John declares this miracle at the wedding to be the first miracle (vs11). It was probably the third day of the wedding feast. In those days a marriage celebration-feast could last up to a week. By the third day, Jesus and His new disciples arrived. Apparently Jesus’ mother was already there, probably helping out with the marriage feast. Don’t let the phrase third day escape your attention. It was on the third day that Jesus rose from the grave. The miracle at the wedding is all about Jesus’ death and resurrection; a picture of Him being the Lamb of God.
Wine had run out which would have been an embarrassment for the host. Mary, not expecting any kind of miracle because Jesus had not done any yet, asked her Son, the head of her home, to help. Here Jesus gives His mother a respectful rebuke. “Woman, what have I to do with thee? Mine hour is not yet come” (vs4).
Jesus calls His mother “Woman”. He also does so at the cross (Jn 19:26). This is not being disrespectful to her. It would be like the word “ma’am” today. Jesus would never disrespect His mother as that would be sin. But He was now emphasizing a new relationship with her; from Mother-Son to Sinner-Saviour. No longer is He just a son to be instructed, but now He is her Saviour to be worshipped.
He asks what have I to do with thee? Basically Jesus is saying “what is the wine problem to me“. His next statement adds clarity to this when Jesus says Mine hour is not yet come. Jesus didn’t come to earth as a Mr. Fix-It. He came to redeem the lost, to die on a cross, to shed His holy blood as the Lamb of God to take away the sin of the world. Jesus is always mindful of people’s needs, and He does address those needs, but our greatest need is salvation from sin. His “hour” to do that had not yet come. This was his purpose; not fixing wedding feast problems. But He would lend His hand to help the wine issue, and in doing so He would demonstrate why He came.